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  • Writer's pictureK.C. Dreisbach, LMFT

When Your Brain isn't Serving You: Understanding how limiting thoughts are holding you back!

Updated: Apr 9, 2022

Have you ever stopped for a second and really paid attention to the thoughts in your head?

What if I was to tell you that your thoughts are what is holding you back from being happy, successful, loved, and so on?

That’s a pretty bold statement for me to make, but stay with me for just a moment before you write me off....

I remember a time when I thought I would never find a guy that would love me. I remember a time when I believed I would never be healthy. I remember a time when I hated how I looked and didn't see myself as attractive.

You see, back when I was 15, I was diagnosed with an autoimmune disorder. This disorder covered my legs in welts from my toes to my hips. And when they came out, they stung, burned, and itched. Wearing shoes was painful, and my clothes bothered me. I experienced all kinds of treatments, from injections, to low-dose chemo, and monthly IV treatments for 8 hours at a time. At one point, the doctors even recommended bone marrow transplant.

I was a teen girl, highly focused on what others thought of me (pretty typical for any teen). I was happy, a little self-conscious, and a straight-A student. I was doing pretty good. And then the welts appeared, and it all went downhill from there.

For 1.5 years, I was miserable! I believed I was ugly, that no one would ever want to date me, and that I would always suffer like this. I BELIEVED my life was going to be about medical treatments, about solitude, about pain, and misery.

And then it all changed. It all changed because of one little revelation I had. I realized that it didn't have to be that way.

You see, when I was a junior in high school (1.5 years into my diagnosis), my sister was a sophomore. After school one day, she was sobbing. Naturally, I was concerned and wanted to know what was wrong. She said, "There was a girl talking about you in class today."

Now, no one said anything bad- they were just curious about what was wrong with my legs. But my sister couldn't handle it. That day, I realized just how much my own misery was impacting the people I loved most. My misery was RADIATING misery!

And that's when I decided to change. I decided that I didn't want to feel this way anymore. So, I got serious about my thinking, about how I thought and spoke about myself. I BELIEVED I could be happy, gorgeous, and have a boyfriend despite my medical condition.

And you know what happened? My life suddenly changed. I started feeling happy again, confident, and at peace. And do you know what else happened? I met someone. And not just 1 someone, A LOT of someones!

I started attracting people to my life, and I was attracting people to my life because I was no longer radiating misery! I was radiating joy. I was radiating confidence. I had taken control back of my life. And I regained control because I started to change my limiting beliefs. I started to rework negative thoughts and pushed myself to BELIEVE something different.

I started to BELIEVE in my capacity for happiness, for health, for peace. I started rewriting all those garbage thoughts in my head and I got serious about cleaning up my thinking.

It wasn’t easy. It was so hard and it took some serious discipline on my part… but if I, a teenage girl, was able to do it, then YOU can too.

Take just a second and really think about the thoughts in your head. What are your limiting beliefs? What’s really holding you back?

Stop the trash talk going on in your head and THROW IT AWAY. Start believing that you can be happy, that you can have the job of your dreams, that you can be successful, that you can be healthy. Start believing that you CAN. Because “when you believe you can, YOU CAN.”

I’m not saying it’s going to be easy, and I’m not saying that everything in your life will magically change for the better. We both know it doesn’t work that way. But that magical change you want for yourself IS attainable. You CAN achieve it, but only if you take that first important step and DO something.

"Our biggest challenge is overcoming limiting thoughts." YOUR biggest challenge is overcoming YOUR limiting thoughts. It was certainly this way for me. But when I finally changed those thoughts into something powerful, things began to change. Everything began to fall into place. It can be like that for you too.

So, accept the challenge, stop being afraid, and overcome your limiting thoughts. Take the step to change your life.

Are you struggling with garbage thoughts like I was? Is the conversation in your head filled with negativity, pessimism, hate, or self-loathing? Those thoughts aren't serving you. We can change your thinking and get you on the path to loving yourself and your life, no matter where you are right this moment. Send me a message and let's get you scheduled for a free coaching consultation. I'll dedicate an hour of my time to help you, completely free. Then we can talk about continuing to work together if that's something you want. Message me now and take advantage of this opportunity.


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Krystal Dreisbach is a licensed therapist, mindset coach, adjunct professor of counseling, and published author.  Her specialties include depression treatment, anxiety counseling, stress management support, and mindset coaching.  Learn more about Krystal and see how she can help you live a better life.

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